There is a book in the middle of the bible, there is this collection of love poems that are so explicit that young Jewish boys were not allowed to read them until were older.
THE THREE FLAMES OF LOVE – BED OF ROSES Of (which mine has been because of you)
there are three different Hebrew words used to describe love. I have found these three things to be very important to cultivating a healthy and loving relationship.
RAYA – Friendship
The first Hebrew word used to describe love in Song of Songs is “Raya,” which means basically a friend, a companion or soulmate (Song of Songs 4:7). Basically, this special person should be our best friend.
AHAVA – Deep Affection and Commitment
The second Hebrew word is “Ahava,” which means a deep affection. It is a desire that is unquenchable, a wish to be with the other person that makes your heart ache.
love has three dimensions. — “Ahava” is a love of the will and that it is more profound than just fleeting romantic feelings. It is a desire which leads a person to make a decision to join their life to another forever. It is what makes things last. It is the commitment involved in making a relationship work. Here we see that love is very much a choice as much as it is a connection. The lovers of Song of Songs state that Ahava is as strong as death, that many rivers cannot quench “Ahava” (Song of Songs 8:7).
DOD – Passion
The third Hebrew word used in the Hebrew love poems is “Dod.” Dod means to carouse, rock or to fondle (Song of Songs 1:2). Dod is the passion and the romantic feelings that are a part of a love relationship, the physical, sexual part.
“Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.” Genesis 2:24 and Matthew 9:5
The three ingredients of love are three distinct flames. Each component that we have is a small flame. Some people may just settle for the Dod flame in their relationship. Well, this is only a small piece of the whole of love. We can keep coming back to this flame but alone it never really satisfies. Our souls ache for more. The key is to have all three flames burning as one big flame. This big flame can warm our soul and satisfy us. Anything less is less than what we were intended for. The good news is that if you are in a relationship and one of these three ingredients is missing you can still, many times, light the flames by focusing on them.
When we separate the flames there is never enough heat to keep the fire going