family, marriage

TWO ARTIST ONE PAINTING

Are you as a couple working toward a portrait of what your lives will look like in 20 years….or are you on separate paths?

This is a great little message that will help you as a couple in the University of Marriage paint one portrait throughout your lives.

“a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh. 25 The man and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame.”   Genesis 2:21 (NIV)

1. MARRIAGE MYTHS.

1. Marriage will meet ALL MY NEEDS.

2. Marriage will end my LONELINESS.

3. Marriage will heal my BROKENNESS .

4. Marriage will ensure my HAPPINESS.

2. WHAT A STRONG MARRIAGE LOOKS LIKE.

Six “Cs” you can see in a strong marriage

1. Commitment     2. Communication     3. Compatibility

4. Control     5. Consideration      6. Coping Skills

3. HOW TO BUILD A HEALTHY MARRIAGE.

Learn to LOVE.

“Watch what God does, and then you do it, like children who learn proper behavior from their parents… Keep company with him and learn a life of love. Observe how Christ loved us. His love was not cautious but extravagant. He didn’t love in order to get something from us, but to give everything of himself to us. Love like that.” Ephesians 5.1-2 (The Message)

Practice FORGIVENESS.

“Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.” Colossians 3.14

Accentuate the POSITIVE.

“Finally, brother, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable – if anything is excellent or praiseworthy – think about such things.” Philippians 4.8

Place yourself in SUBMISSION.

“Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.” Ephesians 5.21

4. Keep at IT  –   keep at IT  –  Keep at IT.

Keep painting the portrait of your lives together…Keep the colors flowing and keep the passion growing.

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Books I'm Reading, church family

Did 2009 turn out the way you thought it would?

If 2009 did not turn out the way you planned it,  You might relate to one of my favorite children’s books.

I read this book to the entire church every Christmas and the kidos sit up on the plateform while the congregation looks on.

The story begins with three little trees growing on a mountaintop. Each has a dream. The first wants to be beautiful and hold marvelous treasures. The second hopes to be the strongest ship carrying kings across the seas. The third never wants to be cut down. She dreams only to grow tall and point people to heaven.

The years pass and the three trees grow tall and strong. Three lumerjacks come and cut them down. The first two are initially excited, but then disappointed as they are turned into less than they had hoped. The first is built into a feedbox for animals. The second a small fishing boat. The third tree is simply cut into planks and left in a pile. They’re dreams are all but forgotten until one night a young mother lays her newborn baby in the manger. That tree knows he hold the greatest treasure of all. Then the small fishing boat watches a weary traveller calm the stormy sea. He knows he holds the King of heaven and earth. Finally, the third tree is taken from the pile to form a cross. She feels ugly and ashamed when a man’s hands and feet are nailed to her. But when the earth trembled on the third day, she knew “God’s love had changed everything. It had made the first tree beautiful … the second tree strong … And every time people thought of the third tree, they would think of God.”
I love the simple story. It reminds us that God always gives us our desires, but sometimes they materialize in ways drastically different than we imagined.

GET THIS BOOK NO MATTER YOUR AGE.

“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Jeremiah 29:11

Can’t wait to read this book Sunday morning @ PFA 10:45 AM.

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Just sayin', Prescott

Ed-onomics and “THE BOOK”.

This blog post is about “sustainable communities”.

Sustainable communities are built on sustainable relationships.

If you are old enough, you might remember the local country store where you could be “On the tab”.
The store owner would allow you to purchase a limited amount of goods on credit based not on  your credit score but rather the relationship you had with the owner.

I love living in a town and doing business at a local vender who allows me to be “IN THE BOOK”.
Good local relationships are the best. That is called “community” and economics are so much better when the people you do business with are your friends.
If I could personally choose , I would not go for Reaganomics or Obamanomis…I would love to live in a Relational/economic society called  EDonomics .
That in part, is what we are missing on the globe. Connectable and sustainable relationships with people we do business with who you trust and who trust you. The relationship you have with someone is much more valuable than the goods you buy from them.

I just had to grab a pic of THE BOOK with my name along with other locals who are in THE BOOK.
I have faded out the dollar amounts to respect their privacy ….but I couldn’t resist posting such a cool group to be with in THE BOOK.

Edonomics rule.

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Arizona, Bikes, Mountain biking

MORE ROCKS THAT TALK

Last Saturday morning some of the locals wanted to get a ride in before the hurricane hit Preskitt.

Yes, I said hurricane. Winds where clocked at 77 mph hour in our little Mayberry town up here in the high desert.

Any way we did trail 95 by Lynx Lake and we ran across some  petroglyps.  The other guys thought the lower drawing was a mountain biker but I’m bot sure about that.

Here are some of the buds that made for a great morning of biking through the woods.

Keith Beesmer, Steve Lummer, Robert Middlemore, Steve Becker, Dave Mangan, Jeff Combs.

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leadership, Ministry

CRAVEMAN – MEAT FOR MEN SERIES

We are continuing a new series in @ CRAVEMAN tonight called Meat For Men.

The entire study is based from 1 Corinthians 3:1-3 that says’

Brothers, I could not address you as spiritual but as worldly—mere infants in Christ. 2I gave you milk, not solid food, for you were not yet ready for it. Indeed, you are still not ready. 3You are still worldly. For since there is jealousy and quarreling among you, are you not worldly? Are you not acting like mere men?

The last two studies have been great. and tonight will be just as good.

The study begins at 7:15 tonight @ Prescott First Assembly .

Also, there is a facebook group if you are interested in joining. Just go to http://www.facebook.com and search for CRAVEMAN.

I wanted to end this short blog post by giving this great quote by Leonard Ravenhill “Let me die climbing”.

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marriage

MARRIAGE MATTERS FACEBOOK GROUP

Just wanted to send out this blog post and let everyone know we have started a Marriage Matters Facebook page.

Just go to facebook and type in Prescott First Assembly Marriage Matters.

What a great way to stay connected, share stories and resources with friends.

here is the link in case you are interested.

http://www.facebook.com

http://www.facebook.com/search/?q=tim+black&init=quick#/group.php?gid=118100244949&ref=ts

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church family, Ministry

CHRISTMAS HANG UPS

So proud of our children’s workers at PFA.

The team of adult volunteers have been working with all the children for this weekends Children’s Christmas program.

December 13th, 10:45am

Prescott First Assembly

1455 Willow Creek Road, Prescott778-1455

If you are in the Prescott Area come see this humorous and engaging musical, featuring delightful songs and a solid message that will not only teach your children what Christmas is all about, but will remind kids and congregation alike that Christmas is truly a time to celebrate! It is going to be a fun Sunday for sure.
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Ministry

I CAN’T SEE GOD #5

We have had a great five weeks with this series.
Here is the outline for the last teaching of this fun series.
 
I CAN’T SEE GOD ……..BECAUSE I’M IN THE WAY
               Pastor Steve Lummer       part 5
 
If people can’t see what God is doing,  they stumble all over themselves; But when they attend to what he reveals,  they are most blessed.  Proverbs 29:18 ( message)
 
Review: I can’t see God because
I don’t know what he looks like”.
I am stuck in the redundant life instead of the abundant life..”
I don’t like some of  His kids very much.”
I am so mixed up.
 
Today – I CAN’T SEE GOD BECAUSE  I LIKE MY LIFE JUST THE WAY IT IS.
 
I want to know Christ and the power of his resurrection and the fellowship of sharing in his sufferings, becoming like him in his death, Philippians 3:10 (niv)
 
             THE POWER and THE PRESSURE
 
 
 
1. LIVING ON THE SHORE OF LAKE CONTENTMENT.
But godliness with contentment is great gain. 7 For we brought nothing into the world, and we can take nothing out of it. 8 But if we have food and clothing, we will be content with that.  1 Timothy 6:6, 7,8 
 
 
 
2. STUCK IN THE VALLEY OF COMPLACENCY.
Woe to you who are complacent in Zion Amos 6:1 (niv)
 
 
 
3. SEEING GOD BY SHARING IN HIS SUFFERING.
In this world you will have trouble. John 16:33
 
GOD USES SUFFERING “thorn in the flesh” – 2 Corinthians 12:7-10
TO SHAPE OUR PERSPECTIVE OF OURSELVES
TO SHAPE OUR PERSPECTIVE OF HIM
TO SHAPE OUR PERSPECTIVE OF OTHERS
 
FIX OUR FOCUS
let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles, and let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us. 2Let us fix our eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of our faith Hebrews 12:1,2
 
 

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church family, family, Just sayin', marriage, Ministry

YANK THE PLANK

PLANK EYE REVISITED

I just wanted to finish up part two of this blog post on “Negotiating Change with people you care about”

In Bren’s class she is teaching on ways in which we can bring about meaningful and lasting change with people we care about and love the most.

Here are some brief bullet points to negotiating change.

1. Start at the right place.

The first place to start is to YANK THE PLANK out of our own eyes before we attempt to “fix” someone else.

Jesus tells us to start with ourselves ″Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? 4 How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? 5 You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye. Matthew 7:3-5

2. Resource and understand the power of love.

Here are the five love languages Brenda has taught from Gary Chapman’s book the Five Love Languages.

Receiving gifts

These are visual or tangible symbols of love (presents and gifts).

Acts of service

Doing things for the other such as chores or other caring acts performed out of love not duty.

Quality time

Focusing energy and attention on the other through conversation and showing interest in each other.

Words of affirmation

Expressing love through compliments, praise and encouragement.

Physical touch

Not only sex but holding hands, stroking, hugging, sitting next to each other.

3. Develop healthy communication skills.

Remember, the six interpretations of spoken communication are:

1. What the speaker intended to say.

2. What the speaker actually said.

3. What the speaker thought he or she said.

4. What the hearer needed to hear.

5. What the hearer actually heard.

6. What the hearer thought he or she heard.

4. Timing is almost everything.Husbands really do not prefer a “honey do” list right as they walk in the door after work and wives would appreciate some eye contact and timing.

Just one more note regarding negotiating change with people.

Did you notice this week that we have decided as a nation to send 30,000 troops to another country to engage in more war?

Yep, the issue of war is all about not being able to negotiate change globally, regionally and anywhere else there are at least two people close to each other.

Here is a pretty cool 2000 year old text from Jesus half brother James that speaks right to the issue of why we can’t get along with one another both domestically and globally.

What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you? 2 You want something but don’t get it. You kill and covet, but you cannot have what you want. You quarrel and fight. You do not have, because you do not ask God. 3 When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures. … “God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble….Come near to God and he will come near to you.” – James 4:1- 10

Jesus and James must have had a pretty sweet family.

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